30 Lessons For Loving
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30 Lessons For Loving

People of all ages are interested in love, relationships and marriage. We are either on the lookout for the right person or we are trying to make a marriage work over decades.

Finding lasting love can be a challenge, but is there a formula for creating a perfect match?

Cornell University professor Karl Pillemer, seems to think so. He asked over 700 people averaging 43 years of marriage each, to tell him the secret to a happy marriage and they poured their hearts out. He shares what he learned in his new book, “30 Lessons for Loving: Advice from the Wisest Americans on Love, Relationships, and Marriage.”

Here are some of the gems they shared:

  • Marriage is hard. It takes spirit and resilience.
  • Marriage is something that you work at and get better at, but it is never completed. And when you "look back from the finish line over a half century or more of marriage, lifelong marriage is incredibly good. It's almost indescribable. It's such a source of joy.

Pillemer gathered these insights and many others after spending the last four years conducting the Marriage Advice Project. The sample included some retirees who were widowed and some same-sex couples. It also included folks who had been happily married for years, and those who had been through multiple marriages and divorces.

The longest marriage was 76 years between a 101-year-old woman and 98-year-old man. Pillemer has been married for 36 years to his high school sweetheart, Clare McMillan.

So if you are, searching for a mate, in relationships where you are considering marriage, married and need some new tips, then join us for this fresh, wise, surprising and compelling conversation on “what makes for an amazing love life that stands the test of time.”

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Karl A. Pillemer, Ph.D. is a Professor of Human Development at Cornell University. He is the founder and director of the Cornell Institute for Translational Research on Aging, a center that works to increase public awareness of aging research. Dr. Pillemer has authored over a hundred scientific publications, and has spoken widely throughout the world on issues of successful aging, family relationships, and elder care.

He has been interviewed by The New York Times, Washington Post, USA Today, Chicago Tribune, PBS Newshour, CBS Morning News, Marketwatch, AARP Radio, and many other major media outlets. Dr. Pillemer blogs regularly for The Huffington Post.

“In the deepest recesses of our being, we all want to love and be loved. We all want to feel that someone cares about us. Love is all there is, it’s the only way to rescue humanity from all ills.”

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“A must-read for anyone contemplating marriage. The knowledge and wisdom gathered from this huge group of elders is both modern and timeless. It is inspiring, insightful, witty, and often surprising. This is everything about living and loving – I highly recommend it for engaged couples and newlyweds.” – Amy Dickinson, Syndicated Advice Columnist

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